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Val Garner's avatar

Great post Stella. We really do need to incorporate your words 'good enough' much more frequently in life.

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Stella Chibuike-Ezike's avatar

Thank you, Val., I'm glad that this resonated with you. It's important to define what our "enough" is in all aspects of our lives so that we can work with clear expectations and set healthy boundaries accordingly.

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Val Garner's avatar

So true!

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Eunice's avatar

Thank you Stella for this writeup. Especially for a mom in Technology, juggling both career and childcare without much support has been daunting. Most times, I carry the guilt of not being or doing enough at work.

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Eunice's avatar

Exactly, majorly comparison with others.

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Stella Chibuike-Ezike's avatar

Feelings of comparison can be tough. But I usually remind myself of my "why". This helps me remember that no one else is juggling exactly what I am. My journey, responsibilities, and priorities are unique, and that means my success will look "different" too. Please do this instead going forward: Reflect on how far you've come, the challenges you've navigated, and the impact you're making both at work and at home. You're doing more than you realize and I'm rooting for you always.

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Stella Chibuike-Ezike's avatar

I completely understand this. Why do you feel like you’re not doing enough at work? Is it expectations from your workplace, comparisons with others, or your own internal standards? Sometimes, we’re doing far better than we give ourselves credit for.

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